“Spying Custom” – Asking ceremony (Adat Merisik)
Traditional Malay wedding follows the Adat Merisik (“Spying custom” / Asking Ceremony) for arranging marriages.
For the ceremony, the man’s family will engage one or more representatives (wakil) to visit the woman’s family. In the past, this is a “Spying” visit, where the visitors would investigate the woman’s suitability for the man’s future wife.
These days, it is a formality for the families to know one another, and to fix a day for the engagement.
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